Mindset

I Still Have Joy

If you know my story, you probably also know that cooking is a part of my daily routine. Planning and executing meals in my house isn’t easy because the food has to meet specific dietary requirements and it also has to taste good, otherwise it’s a non starter.

Working full time, cooking daily, transporting one kid to countless therapies, homeschooling the other and building a business as a single parent is not easy, even if I make it look that way. 😃 My life is hard and it is challenging, it is not even remotely close to what I had ever envisioned it would be. Not at all.

But then there are the blessings from this journey that the average person could not appreciate, its like being in the most special club that you had to be handpicked by God to be a part of. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that my life is better than yours, but it is special in a way that may be difficult for you to see. It is messy, lonely and exhausting at times, but it is also beautiful and filled with grace. Oh and dare I leave out the friends that have crossed the miles to hold my hand when I have needed it? Never!

So, no it isn’t the life that I would have picked, but it is the life that God has given to me because he loved me and thought me worthy.

I still have joy! ❤️
AngelaChristine

Parenting

When this title popped into my head, I thought oh boy, I may be stepping into a hornet’s nest. Not because I don’t feel qualified to discuss this topic, but primarily because, even in the age of coronavirus, many parents still have a difficult time with the idea of educating their own children. For some the response is visceral. Almost, as if teaching their own children is an imposition.

To be fair, I had a very similar thought pattern at the beginning of my parenting journey. Honestly, it took a series of unfortunate events for the me to have my “Yureka” moment too. But once I did, I haven’t looked back once and thought, I regret that I decided to take on the responsibility of educating my own children. Don’t get me wrong, this journey hasn’t been a fairytale, it has had it’s ups and downs; in fact when I removed my daughter from public education after first grade, she had some established patterns that had to be broken down and cast away. And that was only after two years. Dare, I leave out that I worked full time (remotely) when we began this journey four years ago; so some out of the box thinking had to be employed to ensure that she received all of her instruction. Even with all that I have had to balance, had I allowed her to remain in that environment, I shudder to think what she would be like at this point. Fortunately, I was aware enough by the time my son was supposed to start that I never bothered to enroll him.

If you are on the fence and are still grappling with the idea of educating your children, let me give you a few key points to consider. First and most importantly, it is your responsibility and obligation to ensure the moral well being of your children. Period. In fact, in Deuteronomy 6:7, it states that you shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down and when you rise. And I believe it was the Orator, Frederick Douglass, who stated that “it is easier to build strong children, than repair broken men.” So, I ask you, who is doing the building and teaching of your children when they are away from you, their parents for greater than six hours daily? Strangers, people you know absolutely nothing about that you have handed your children over to shape and mold for the better part of each day.

Then there is the question of what are they actually teaching your children in the classroom. Let’s take California for example, their Board of Education thought it made sense to begin to teach sex education to children as young as five years old! You can read about it here. https://dailycaller.com/2019/07/08/california-sexual-education/ Then there is this, teachers in Tennessee want parents to sign a waiver that they will not eavesdrop on their children’s online lessons. What exactly do they plan to discuss with those children that parents should not be privy too? https://www.fox13news.com/news/tennessee-mom-says-parents-asked-to-sign-ridiculous-waiver-they-will-not-eavesdrop-on-kids-online-lessons

Friends, no matter how nervous or scary you think it is to educate your children, let me assure you of this, no one and I mean no one is going to pour into your children the way that you will. Release the idea of recreating “school” in your home. Homeschooling, simply put, is life with education mixed in and children learn best when they feel safe and valued. Tailor your lessons to their learning styles and pour in lots of love and you will be successful. I mean you could even travel the world with your children if that is feasible. Learning is an adventure, that should be approached with wonder. To learn more about what your state requires to homeschool, please check with the Homeschool Legal Defense Association for details https://hslda.org.

Finally, let me dispel the myth that homeschooled children are anti social. Homeschooled children are quite social. They attend church, play sports, participate in homeschool groups and play instruments as well as many other extracurricular activities. There is literally no shortage on what is available for homeschooled children to participate in. How much or how little they do is determined by your family’s availability and interests. Homeschooling your children is gift that will be carried with your children well in their adulthood.

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Psalm 127:8

Blessings!

AngelaChristine

Current Events

10 Things I’ve Learned About People During this Pandemic

1. Most people have no clue what the word, liberty means as it relates to their health and well being. I mean, how easily people have accepted mask mandates as if they are somehow law( which they are not, which means you don’t have to comply). I am further amazed that intelligent people believe that wearing a mask will protect the most vulnerable among us.

2. People say that they trust the science, but when presented with actual science they scoff at it and really aren’t interested at all. They believe the lies peddled by mainstream media. Here is a link to actual science. https://www.meehanmd.com/blog/2020-06-12-healthy-people-should-not-wear-face-masks/ and https://www.bmj.com/content/369/. bmj.m1422

3. People wholeheartedly believe that a vaccine is the only way that our lives can return to normal. They literally never question, how it’s possible to create a coronavirus vaccine in less than a year when it takes on average seven years to produce one. Where is the safety data?

4. People have lost their humanity and compassion. It is near next to impossible to hold a conversation with anyone when you’re in a store or out and about. Just about all eye contact is gone.

5. Another revelation has been finding out that people who at one time, I considered to be very good acquaintances, if not friends have become quite comfortable attacking me over this one issue.

6. Then there is the belief that asymptomatic carriers could be spreading coronavirus and not even know it. Meanwhile, the World Health Organization is on record stating that it is extremely rare for an “asymptomatic carrier” to spread the virus. https://youtu.be/jgwj4uTEYRE

7. No one seems to care or wonder when these mandates and lock downs are going to end, so that churches and small businesses can reopen. Meanwhile they seem to be comfortable with protesting, riots and looting across our country. https://www.conservativereview.com/news/horowitz-lockdowns-blm-anarchy-harming-blacks-anything/

8. The CDC, just recently revised their numbers indicating that out of the 180,000+ coronavirus related deaths only 6% actually died from coronavirus. I didn’t even mention the inaccuracy in testing. https://www.newsmax.com/t/newsmax/article/984567?section=us&keywords=coronavirus-covid-twitter&year=2020&month=08&date=30&id=984567&oref=duckduckgo.com

Even with that revelation, most people are still content to wear their bright and colorful masks.

9. The media has been mostly silent on the unintended consequences of this plandemic. Suicides are up, depression and anxiety are up and not to mention all of the Americans who have lost their jobs and the small businesses that have shut down to never open again. This has been a total disaster in just about every sector of our economy and our lives as a nation.

https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/news/study-coronavirus-restrictions-killing-10-000-children-per-month-and-wasting-and-stunting-millions-more?fbclid=IwAR1MiLVUuBuvZZv-8UMEZqtaDZ_wf5dnN6Haqd_N_x8PJjaIFw-ObiBfN58

10. Fear is a powerful spirit. Otherwise, rational and level headed people have collapsed to their most base behavior over this virus. Logic and reason no longer apply, because of this pervasive belief that if we don’t adhere to every guidance or mandate thrown out by the government we will soon die.

I guess the irony in all of this is, that there are true epidemics happening in this country that have gone virtually overlooked through all of this; such as cancer, heart disease, obesity, diabetes and developmental disorders among children. But since the media has decided to pour all of their energy into creating panic over this virus that has a recovery rate of 99.96% then nothing else matters.

It is important understand that although not pleasant, most of us will and do get sick from time to time and at some point all of us will eventually die. What matters is how we live our lives in between.

AngelaChristine

Reflections

I mourn the loss of human connection.

I mourn the loss of human connection.

I mourn the loss of get togethers just because.

I mourn for our country, the home of the brave, the land of the free.

I mourn what we have allowed our lives to become because of FEAR! How could this have happened? A country that has weathered far worse in its history has collapsed under the weight of a virus that is less dangerous than the flu. My heart breaks whenever I go to the grocery store or pretty much any place of business, because I no longer see faces, just masks. Masks that separate, masks that limit true human connection.

What have we become? How will we overcome the damage that has been done?

Is this the new normal? If it is, I want no part of it and I will never accept it.

I will continue to live as an American and I will never accept tyranny, even if that means I have to travel this road alone.

Still dreaming of America.

AngelaChristine

“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” Benjamin Franklin

Reflections

What’s in a name?

When I started to pen this blog, I don’t think that I had a clear road map as to what it would become other than a place for me to convey my thoughts. Which in and of itself is kind of interesting because the name of this blog is Blue Skies are on the Horizon: Joy in the Storm. I guess that I figured I would talk about my family and on occasion, current events. Now, after writing a few posts, it has become clear that I need to stay in my lane and write about what matters and makes sense to me.

So, what does that mean to you as my reader? It means that to the best of my ability, I want this blog to provide, education, information and entertainment, but above all else, I want it to encourage you to find joy in the mundane, especially during the darkest or most challenging times of your life. As James 1:2&3 states, Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. I think those verses serve as a good reminder that storms will come and when they are over blue skies will return.

In closing, as you take time out of your day to read what I write, I hope that you are able to appreciate the plethora of topics that happen to ramble around in my head and out onto this blog and in that you are able to find some little nugget to encourage you as you go about your day. Pouring into you is what makes my heart happy!

Blessings!

AngelaChristine💖

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What does it mean to be an American?

Over the past few months, I have quite a bit of time to think about that question and to decide what “American”, actually means to me, first as a human, as a female and finally as a black person. Honestly, my conclusion is always the same, I am blessed to live in the greatest country in this world. Sure, we are not perfect, we had an unfortunate start in that the Natives lost their lives and their property, Africans were enslaved for the benefit of plantation owners and even some Europeans were indentured servants to the wealthy and affluent. These acts cannot be overlooked or forgotten, however, what makes this nation great is that we have continuously tried to move in the direction of becoming a more perfect union and in my lifetime, I pray that we will continue to do so.

The Founders understood that in order for different people to live together in a country divided across race, gender and values that a certain set of principles would need to apply. Ideally, their vision was for people to self- govern based on a shared set of morals rooted in respect of life, property and the rights of others, but in a new world unchartered at the start, it was probably best to establish some important parameters. Those parameters began with the creation of the Declaration of Independence, but that was just a primer for creating an entire nation from an idea, a lofty idea that would appeal to our highest ideals rooted in natural law, established by God.

I could go on, but as not to turn this into a Constitutional review, what I really hope to encourage, is that every person reading this post, will take the time to read our Declaration of Independence as well as our Constitution. The Constitution is not an antiquated or out of touch document. It was written by wise men, not only to establish and address the concerns that were prevalent in 1787, but to be forward looking for such a time in which we currently live. In fact, in the preamble, it specifically states that it was written to secure the “blessings of liberty to ourselves and our Posterity.” Our future as a nation.

In my opinion, the Constitution is second to the Bible, in its governing principles. As you know, it was written by men, who thought it was wise to create and establish a government that would honor God through Christ, but would also respect the values and traditions of those who did not share or believe in the Christian values that were the underpinning of our Constitution. That right there is the main reason, I believe it supersedes any other governing document written.

Yes, I know, at the time the Constitution was written, slavery was an integral part of the commerce of our nation. And potentially, had I been alive at that time, could have been born on a plantation and lived a life of inferiority. Thank God, that has not been my experience in this country. Sure, I know that racism still exists in parts of the country, and perhaps even in some institutions. What I don’t believe is that there is an underbelly waiting to enslave black people and others of color in the way that it did in the early history of this country. I do believe that it is now time to acknowledge the past, and to understand that many chains of slavery still exist in the hearts and minds of individuals, while simultaneously, working together to reach the fullest ideals established when the Constitution, became our founding document.

Destroying and burning down, and screaming hateful epithets about our country do nothing but further divide us along arbitrary lines. We can never become a more perfect union, when hate and anger are the prevailing thoughts. We can and we must overcome our destructive desires to ensure that every American is fundamentally considered equal.

In conclusion, what does it mean to me, to be an American? It means that we will one day, in my lifetime, collectively reestablish the belief that we are all created equal by God and we are all endowed with certain unalienable rights to life, liberty and our own pursuits. Until, then I will continue to live as a free and sovereign person made in the image of God.

Blessings!

AngelaChristine

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I started this blog not because I had a desire or inkling to do it, but because several friends on and off Facebook, encouraged me to do so. They said that when they have been unable to process something or unable to sleep, one of my posts pops up in their feed that encourages them or helps them sort something out. 

The average person might have  said, “thank you, for the compliment, that’s a great idea, I think I will do just that.” But instead, what I said was, “thank you, but I could never write a blog, I’m not that interesting and no one would even read it.” Talk about being a Negative Nelly!  I did exactly, what I encourage others not to do, I got up to bat and choked. 

How can I encourage others, when I can’t even encourage myself? I mean I do this all of the time. I tell my friends to think positively, pursue their dreams, blah, blah, blah! But in my mind there is a hard stop, that this can’t be done by me and I will fail. Why can’t the opposite be true? Why can’t I succeed? Why do I feel the need to tear myself down, when no one else is even trying to? 

I guess at some point in my childhood or somewhere early in life, I accepted that just because, Sally Sue is doing something, doesn’t mean that I can do it too. Boy, did I get that wrong. Writing a blog, a book or newspaper column is not a skill set that anyone is born with. Yes, there are some people who are naturally gifted at writing, but for the rest of us, it is a learned skill set, like building muscles that you’ve not used in quite some time. And yes, it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but to give up before getting started is not wise either. So, instead of not doing, I will keep going to see what happens.

So today, I have made the decision to update this blog regularly, because my words do matter to some people, maybe more. Besides shouldn’t we always seek an opportunity to serve others, where they have a need? What good is a light, that is hidden from the people who need it most? 

Blessings!

AngelaChristine

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Freedom in Christ

These thoughts have been rattling around in my head for several days now, but I just couldn’t quite figure out how to frame them in the way that I wanted. I’m not really sure if I can right now, but they are on my heart to write and in light of what is happening in my beloved country right now, it is necessary. You see, when I was baptized into Christ at the age of 14, a surgery took place. A cutting away of the filth of my flesh. So, when I came out of that water, I was God’s new creation, with a clean slate. A new start, if you will. From that point on I was commanded to walk in the newness of life because the blood of Christ had removed all of my sins and made me free. Free from sin and able to have a relationship with God!!! That moment reconciled me to God.Friends, do you not know that sin separates us from God? Sin separates us from God first and from each other second. Sin is lawlessness, sin is violence and destruction. But this is not new, whenever man has pushed God out, it is never replaced with anything good or decent. There are just too many passages of scripture that show us this. And let us not forget the penalty of sin. “For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 6:23”Let me get to my point, I have freedom in Christ! What God says about me supersedes any opinion or action of any person on this planet. I am not less than anyone because of the color of my skin or my gender. In fact, God made ALL of us in His image. Genesis 1:27 and Acts 17:26. That settles that argument of division based on cultural differences and whatever else man has concocted to keep us divided. Jesus, instructs us this way, “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other commandment greater than these. Mark 12:30&31So while many of you think, we still need to continue to fight for racial equality, the day I obeyed the gospel made me better than equal, that decision put in my the family of God. ❤️

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A little bit of sunshine…

I started writing this post more than a month ago, but for some reason never finished. Perhaps, it was because I became side tracked or maybe I just didn’t feel inspired. Who knows? I guess it’s like that sometimes for new bloggers. Or perhaps writers block only happens to the reluctant ones. I mean, I am not by definition a writer. I never intended to blog or write or anything of the sort. I guess I just stumbled into this because maybe I needed a way to express my random thoughts or experiences or my crazy, sometimes messy, but good life.

At this point, an introduction is probably in order. “Hello, my name is Angela Ireland Canady and I am a North Carolina native living in Georgia with my two children, Emily (11) and Ethan (9). Nice to meet you! We live about an hour northwest of the city of Atlanta just to give you a little perspective. You’re probably wondering by now, why there is no mention of a husband. Well, as life would have it my marriage of thirteen years ended officially a few short weeks ago and thus I begin my new journey into the unfamiliar by taking on all the things that I’ve never done, like writing. I mean why not, isn’t that what most people do when they experience significant trauma or a major life changing event? Dive head first into something you know absolutely nothing about.

I can truly say that writing this blog is absolutely terrifying! I don’t know what I am doing but for some reason I feel drawn to travel this path, so here I am opening up this door into my life in a way that I never imagined. I don’t know how I really feel about it but now that I am here I have to see it through. So, I ask you as my reader to be patient and to give me a little grace as I navigate this new chapter.

Before I go on, let me answer the question that you would ask me if you could. How are you holding up? I am fine! Good actually! Going through this separation has forced me to look squarely into the eye of the storm. As painful as this storm has been, I am glad that I allowed myself to go through every single stage of it. Now that I am on the other side of it, I see the sunshine peeking through. The warmth, the embrace of the sun is so healing and restorative, amazing actually. In my heart, it has been like God reaching down and giving me the hug that only He can to assure me that He has set my path and we will be just fine.

Life is funny sometimes, and certainly this is not a place that I ever envisioned I’d ever be, single and raising two children alone, but because of the God that I serve I will continue to walk by faith, knowing that no matter what may come my way, He is always with me and He keeps His promises.

Blessings!

AngelaChristine

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